Life After

It was like any other weekend. We went back to home town only to find out from my in-law that my brother was warded. What disgraced. From my in-law. Not my family. I know I am the youngest and with a BIG gap. That does not mean that I need not to be informed. I am well into my thirties now!!! HELLOWWWWW!

Anyway, after settling Jien, me and hubby went to GH to pay him a visit. He was quite weak but he speaks fine. He was warded due to severe constipation. But he mentioned that I need to take care of Jien. Take care of father and my bisnes (goodness! My biz is more like a hobby only to me...okok, back to the story..) I told him everything is going to be alright. With the drips and doc's care, he should be heading home real soon- at least, this is what we thought. But he told me, it is enough. It is time for him to go. He said enough is enough with all the spending on him all these while.. But eventually, we sort of calm him down, changed subjects and he then went to sleep.

The very next day, we went again. But this time, the doctor wanted to speak to me. Asking if we did neglect him at home. Whether he is all this while - like this..I thought what like this?? Apparently, he shouted a lot and talked 'to himself' a lot last night. He even used his 'tongkat' to try hitting the doctor in the morning. He was OUT OF HIS MIND! I then said firmly - 'NO'. Yes, he could be old (not really, but pass 50), he did not speak clearly (he was born like this), he could not walk properly (he underwent a surgery before, since then, he can't really walk straight and quit his job). But he is definitely somebody with a straight mind.

BUT, I had to admit, something was amiss. We all agreed he was not in his right mind that very day. We steadfastly told the doctor that he was certainly unlike this normally. I knew him for 30 odd years!! Yes he could be a bit hot tempered but not to strangers! Only at home. He is pretty much a shy person. But that day he acted real weird, he said he wanted to get married. He asked me to quit my job so that I can stay at home to take care of him. He said xxx also can. Then he went to a female doctor and hugged her! Goodness! He said 'I want to marry you!' 'I love you' etc etc and he even said he wanna have 'sxx' !!! That was truely something really NOT my brother! We were so worried. What happened? He was fine yesterday and was resting calmly before we left. Could it be that he really suffered some mild mental illness and now it sort of,er.. exploded?

Then aunts and my cousin came for a visit. Him with a smile asked our cousin to sit beside him. Then of all sudden, he hugged her and said 'I love U!!' Aunts panicked and cried. I consoled them that things will turn out fine. Just give him some time.

I knew. I knew both my aunts were closed to my brother(they are almost same age). Aunts then suggested to call for a 'medium' to check on him. We called another brother of mine. Ok, to cut short the story - we did find a 'sifu' to solve this. He said the 'ceremony' will start only at night 11pm and somebody at home will have to lit up the big joss sticks continuously for 3 days - day and night or else... Nope, he did not say 'or else' but WHO dares stop??!! Ok. Note taken. Being a Christian myself, all I could do was pray and pray more...

THAT was one the most difficult afternoon to pass. I had to rush back to settle Jien and rush back to hospital again to fetch hubby. No one would believe it. Just yesterday, he was weak and shy. But that afternoon, he shouted, chanted, moved swiftly, talked non-stop, chant non-stop, sweat non-stop! He did not appeared sick. Occasionally he would say 'Don't catch me!' 'Come, chant with me! Everybody, come - louder! louder!' This happened on and on till we had no choice but wait for the doctor to jab with tranquilizer.

That was not an easy night for us ALL...

The next day, I was told this (from the sifu): That day was actually his 'day' to leave this world. The 'niu tou ma lien' (note: the Taoism belief that when one is leaving this earthy world, the assistants of 'Yu Wang Da Di' -King of Hell, from the other world with ox-like and horse-like face will come to the person to bring him/her to Yu Wang for judgement) were there to take him. The prayer that was held was with assistance of a god (in Taoism, there were many gods FYI) and my mom, pleading them to leave him this time. Yes. It worked. They do left him. But he is now with another name. And his life here, extended.

We visited him that afternoon again. He was back to the normal him. Back to the shy him. He requested to take his own shower. He took his porridge. The doctor questioned no more about his mental health and finally believed what we said (about him being normal) and talked to us with respect now (maybe because we dressed better - Monday ma!).

Whatever his name, he is still my brother. A brother whom I respect.

Life after death is full of unknown stuff. Me and hubby had a long discussion on that.

If you believed in X - you will be taken to X-world.
If you believed in y - y world
If one believe nothing - which world?
OR if one believe in both X and Y world, will one be taken by both and cause a big STIR? Hmmmm.....

I choose to believe in HIM, the Christ. STILL.